So this is not directed toward any one, it is more of a generalization, based on what I have observed or even been through my self.
I know there is no perfect man, as there is no perfect woman, but damn ladies get it together! If your man has cheated on you more than once, he will do it again. If you are the one woman who is the "other woman" and believe dude when he says he is leaving his relationship, he wont. If you and your man are having the same argument over and over again about the same issue, that issue and argument are not going any where..
The point I am getting at is this, people are who they are and I don't care how bad of a bitch you may be, that man is not going to change for you. A person only changes for themselves.
Don't allow your emotions to override your sense of reasoning. Instead of trying to change a man, the advice is, 'look before you leap.' When you are out there dating and you have the "I like this guy, BUT" moment, be smart, if what ever follows that "BUT" is something that you can't deal with it, DONT! When going into this situation, and you want a better chance of a lasting relationship, you have to ask yourself, if this would be something that you feel would affect the happiness of the relationship, will this cause an argument, is this something you can't get past: If you answered yes, then keep it moving!
On the flip side, some of you may have too high of standards, for instance: A woman works at a fast food joint, with no car, no education or ambition and lives with her parents, and then expects her man to have an education, a good job, a nice car and crib...what makes you think that man wants her? There is a saying that says treat people how you want to be treated, which can be flipped toward this situation, If you have high standards for your potential mate, you better be able to meet those same standards yourself.
...AND HAPPY NEW YEAR! BRING SOME OF THAT INTO 2010-OKAY!
Chuuuurch!!!
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